How are you all doing? I am good and hope you all are as well. Those of you following me on Instagram or Facebook already know that this blog is not going to be something that I usually do. It’s not related to fashion but is very close to my heart because here I am gonna be sharing my insecurities and how I stay positive all the time. Also, it’s going to be a bit lengthy so please bear with me guys. Let’s get going then.
How many people you know are insecure about something or the other? Well, if you ask me, I don’t know even a single person who is 100% happy with everything they have. Take me for example. I can’t even begin to tell you how insecure I am about my nose, my body, the kind of person I am. I need to look into someone’s eyes while talking to them but there have been times when the person I am talking to suddenly says that I have a big nose and that’s it. I can’t talk anymore. My confidence drops in a second. I just cannot look them in the eyes anymore that means I cannot talk anymore, which was the whole point of meeting them.
I don’t think I have a great body. I have love handles, I have huge arms. There have been days when I would just stand in front of a mirror looking at the minutest flaw, wondering why do I look the way I do. I was so insecure about it that at a point of time I started following crazy diets. As a result of which my haemoglobin is below the normal count now. I have had breakups with so many people. All kinds of breakups. There have been times when I cried all night long thinking I am such a damaged person that nobody wants to be with. Then there is this friend of mine who is one of the prettiest girls I know. She keeps on saying that she is so fat that she is ugly. And trust me she is not!
I am trying to prove a point here. The place where we come from has such strict standards of beauty. A girl needs to be fair, she has to have a particular cup size, she is supposed to have big eyes, should not have even a slight bulge. BUT! Is there even a single person who we have not judged? I know so many people who have told me tons of times that they want to be like me. They think I am perfect. But seriously, what does perfection stand for? We all have had our doubts that mean no one is perfect. I am a Fashion Blogger which is why people expect me to be dressed up all the time, looking my very best at all times. I put so much effort into getting just one good picture to post on my Instagram. To get just one “Instagram-worthy” picture, I click on about 500 pictures! Then comes the editing. Trust me, each and every picture you see online goes through a dedicated session of editing.
I mean seriously, raise your hand if you have ever been called healthy (decent way of saying fat) or dusky/black beauty(we all know what that means). Black beauty was a horse. DUHH!
But where there is something wrong, there is also a solution. The problem is that we let others be our guide. The problem is that we have a definition of beauty. Why have that when all we have here in this universe is beautiful for someone or the other. I have been lucky enough to have so many people in my life who believe in me and whenever I have even the slightest of doubt in my capabilities, they are right there telling me that it’s my flaws that make me who I am. When I complain about the way I look now they tell me I look so much better. Then there is my mother who believes in me like no one else. She thinks I am the prettiest girl who can do anything. She knows the side of me that even I don’t.
Today, I love myself more than I ever have. I am done letting anyone tell me that I do not have this, I do not have that. So should you all be. Why let anyone tell us that we are not perfect when it is these imperfections that make us who we are. Most of all there is beauty in realness. Pursue beauty, perfection the way you want it, not by the definitions. Clearly, I am “PERFECT”. So are you. Stay special by being who you are and trust me, the world has plenty of those who will accept the real you with open arms, and for those who didn’t, the distance from them will never harm!
Have a great weekend you guys.
Dress- Local Market.
Shoes- Sammydress. You can buy them here.
A Dose of Sparkle. XOXO